Perfect Valentine
Posted on January 15, 2014
A topic which always draws attention in our lives, whether that be from parents, grandparents, friends or siblings- MARRIAGE is the most talked about part of growing up. With today being Valentine’s Day, it is timely to discuss Islam’s take on marriage and how that loving bond of marriage can complete every believer’s faith.
All scholars are in agreement that marriage is something which is recommended and called for in Islam- with some scholars adding that it is obligatory (waajib) for those with the ability to do so. The Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him) said:
"Whoever has the ability should marry for it is better in lowering the gaze and guarding one's chastity. Whoever is not able let him fast for it is for him a restraint." (Al-Bukhari)
Without a doubt, marriage can be seen as part of the greater social agenda of Islam- providing a friend, a companion, a family and most importantly a friend in faith. However, the objective of marriage is to also help combat "singlehood" and inappropriate wrongdoings such as fornication and adultery, which in this day and age are easily committed. Islam acknowledges that human desires are natural and sanctions marriage as an outlet for them. The sanctity of marriage is therefore considered “half the faith” as it protects both Muslims and their community from sin- the right atmosphere brings better tidings and in turn a faithful tiding.
Unlike other religions, Islam does not support celibacy as an expression of faith; instead, marriage is seen as an act of worship in itself- so seek marriage if you are of reasonable age and fulfill those duties & practices which the Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him) favoured.
To help you on your way, here are 2 Etiquettes/Tips/Questions to consider when searching for a spouse:
- Ask yourself: Why do I wish to marry? – An interesting quote: “Marriage is a commitment and relationship that starts in the Dunya and will continue in the Akhirah”- It is therefore an extremely important decision to make, so purify your intentions and think carefully.
- Ask yourself: What am I looking for in a spouse? - Abu Hurairah (May Allah Be Pleased With Him) related that the Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him) said: “Men choose women for four reasons: for their money, for their rank, for their beauty and for their religion, but marry one who is religious and you will succeed” (Bukhari, Muslim)